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What you need to know about Verbal Bullying

Verbal bullying is one major form of bullying found worldwide. It involves the use of words in a negative way to cause harm to the victim and also to gain control or power over the victim’s life. 

It mainly includes insults, teasing, put downs, etc

Effects Of Verbal Bullying
Verbal bullying can affect one physically, emotionally​, mentally and psychologically​ which can lead to:
1. Low self-esteem
2. Depression 

3. Anxiety

4. Fear

5. Memory Gap Disorders

6. Anger issues

7. Sleeping issues

8. Assulative behavior

9. Substance Abuse

10. Suicide

Most people often see verbal bullying to be an insignificant from of abuse but that is a misconception that needs to be corrected.
Words have the power to heal and to destroy… verbal bullying destroys….say no to Bullying

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Did you know???


–          No single factor puts a child at risk of being bullied or bullying others. Bullying can happen anywhere
–          45% of young people experience bullying before the age of 18

–          36%  of young people aged 8 to 22 are worried about being bullied at school, college or university 

–          There is a strong association between bullying and suicide-related behaviors, but this relationship is often mediated by other factors, including depression, violent behavior, and substance abuse (Reed, Nugent, & Cooper, 2015).

–          More  than 16,000 young people are absent from school because of bullying

–          83% of young people say bullying has a negative impact on their self-esteem

–          30% of young people have gone on to self-harm as a result of bullying

–          10% of young people have attempted to commit suicide as a result of bullying 

–          People who have been bullied are at greatest risk for health problems in adulthood, over six times more likely to be diagnosed with a serious illness, smoke regularly, or develop a psychiatric disorder compared to those not involved in bullying 

–          Those who have been bullied are more than twice as likely to have difficulty in keeping a job, or committing to saving compared to those not involved in bullying

REFERENCES:

1.www.antibullyingpro.com/blog/2015/4/7facts-on-bullying

2. http://www.americanspcc.org/bullying/statistics-and-information

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THE ABUSE SERIES – BULLYING


“Hey you!!!!

What do you think you’re doing here?

Come over here!!!!

Haven’t I warned you not to come anywhere close to my gang? Haven’t I???”

As soon as I heard those words I wished the earth would just swallow me up because I knew what was coming next

Maybe you know what’s coming next too but if you do not know then lemme enlighten you

~Hi, my name is Sawyer and I am a junior in high school

Ever since the very first day I stepped foot into my school, I have been taunted and haunted by a group of boys here.

What’s worse? I have no one to tell because it seems no one actually cares about me being bullied by some seniors.

Oh and lest I forget, apart from no one actually caring, I don’t think I can even tell because I’m actually scared of what they might do to me if they ever find out

So back to where I left off at the beginning…

I wished the earth would swallow me up because

They are going to beat the life out of me

Yes they are going to beat me for no reason whatsoever

They just find it fun to do that to me and trust me this is not the first time

When it all started, I tried to report the issue to the authorities but they didn’t take any serious action with them and after that whole experience, it just got worse.

Every where they see me I have to be punched or slapped or kicked or at worse be threatened with knives and all that. 

Now I’m scared of coming to school

I now detest a place a used to love

And I’m even scared of home because sometimes when I go home and my parents see all the bruises on my body they begin to ask questions

But I have no proper answer to give them so I just lie to them that I hit my head or something of that sort.

I’m scared because they are everywhere I go which means I get hit everywhere I go

In the washroom, the hallway, the classroom, the compound and anywhere else you can think of they are there

I wish this would all just end

I wish I don’t have to go through this every time

Sometimes I wish I could talk to someone but I can’t

I feel dejected and broken

I can’t take this anymore

The hate is too much for me

I want it all to be over

I just want to die

This is my Story….~

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CHANGES IN THE AFRICAN STORY….2

AFRICA…MY MOST FRUITFUL

We used to have the most cultured and respected generation filled with dignity​ and love for our culture and heritage

What happened to us that what our parents feared to do we now use it to “whatsapp”? 

Copying blindly from the western world, we’ve lost our dignity and pride and I wonder how we will ever get it back? 

Even our television stations and FM radios have stopped teaching and broadcasting our culture but they have inculcated the western culture into our children

The purely appalling sense of a so-called fashion has become a canker in our children and our parents do nothing but put their hands in their bosom and observe

Where? Where?? Where??? 

Where are we going from here my people? What do we see to become of our continent years to come? 

What do we see our children mature to be in the near future if they go on like this?

What is our perception of our future if we stay in our comfort zone and ruin our culture?

The story continues….

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CHANGES IN THE AFRICAN STORY… 1

AFRICA, MY MOST BEAUTIFUL

What happened to the essence of our culture and heritage? 

What brought about this shameful adaptation we have gotten ourselves into now? 

Where are the moral teachings we taught our children from the ananse stories told every night? 

How come our once beautiful and historical country is now filled with nothing but shame? 

How do we continue to tell the stories of our forefathers when we can’t even tell today’s stories? 

We used to have beautiful daughters who valued and cherished themselves but what have they turned into now? 

Pathetic strips of cloth joined together in a disjoint manner they put on and call them clothes. 

Gone are the days when our daughters showed pride in wearing “slit” and “kaba” wherever they went

Gone are the days when our sons didn’t wear their trousers as if they were 3 times their waist size

Where have we reached in our Africa that all our beliefs and values have vanished into thin air like a cloud of smoke? 

The Story Continues….

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THE ABUSE SERIES- BEFORE

“What do I want to be in future?

That’s the question my teacher asked me in school today….

I want to be the UN secretary general when I grow up so I can help the whole world

Yes…that’s my dream”
She has a dream

That is her dream

As young as she is, she aims at helping the world at large

Such a beautiful dream is it?

But that’s not the story I’m telling today

The story continues when she meets her unfortunate dream killer

The dark clouds that consumes her soul with painful tears and bitterness

It wasn’t unconscious nor unthought of but it was a planned cruel act of a heartless being

He had laid wait in the darkness for her for so long but it looked like there was always someone with her 

And today, just when she had to go alone, the devil in him strikes

Ripping her of her clothes, dignity, future and life

She’s just but a girl with a dream and a child with a vision

She’s just but a world changer whose world gets changed rather

All for what? 

His selfish heartless and carnal desires?
Let’s End Child Abuse

Let’s say no to Rape


NO MEANS NO

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THE ABUSE SERIES

“Help!!! Help!!!! Somebody save me!!! Please don’t do this to me!!!

Please I beg you please stop 

Stop stop you’re hurting me!!!!

Please!!!!!……”

Do you know why she’s screaming? 

Can you imagine what she’s going through?

No? You can’t guess? Let me tell you then…

She’s wailing and screaming because someone is tearing apart her insides brutally

Can you relate to it now? 

Do you understand how she’s feeling? 

Yes, you’re right or maybe you’re wrong but that’s besides the point because the point is, she is being abused sexually. 

She’s being raped by someone who is capable of being her father, Uncle, brother or even her friend.

Why is he raping her when he knows it will ruin her life? 

Why would someone​ just get up and destroy an innocent girl’s future? 

Doesn’t he have a conscience? 

No feelings or emotions?

No heart or brain?

That child being raped might be the solution to a nation’s issues but look at her now

She will never be the same again

She will lose herself if she doesn’t get help

She will be traumatized for life

She won’t see the world the same again

All due to what??? 

One selfish, heartless man’s carnal, unruly and ungodly desires?

LET’S END CHILD ABUSE

LET’S STOP RAPE

NO MEANS NO

THE ADVOCATE

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